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What I Want to Tell 16 Year Old Me About Boys

Hey lovelies!

Today we're going to be doing something a little different. I've written a letter to boy crazy, over the top romantic, little naïve 16 year old me, and what better place to put it then the internet?
In all seriousness though, I hope these words inspire, challenge, or encourage you as you walk and grow with yourself, others, and Christ. It's only been three years since I was sixteen, but I am a completely different person now and I am so thankful.

Dear Libby,

Sweet Girl, I say this with so much love but girl you need to calm the heck down. You are sixteen, my dear. I know you say you're in love, that he is the guy of your dreams, that it's only a matter of time.
Sweetheart, he is not the one, I promise. I know you think he is, but he isn't.
You aren't ready for love yet, Liv. We have so much growing to do before we are ready for someone other than our Heavenly Father to hold us. I know you think that boy loving you is the most important thing in the world right now, but I promise you, you won't care in two years. There are so many more important things you can focus on.
Secondly, just because he smiles at you and gives you attention for longer than thirty seconds does not mean he is the guy of your dreams. You are worth so much more than a nod and a disinterested reply, precious one. The Lord sees you, loves you, saved you, and cherishes you like the daughter of a king that you are. Don't let a boy, even the cutest one you know, allow you to think you're less than that. Also, just because he breaks your heart does not mean you are uncapable of love or loving.
It gets better, life is more than the boy you met when you were sixteen. Life is so much more than you could ever dream at sixteen. Calm down on the falling in love thing. Love doesn't have a time limit. You don't have to date in high school or college to find love. God is capable of writing a story you haven't even heard the outline for, lovely. Trust his timing.
I know it's hard, sweet girl. The world tells you that you need a man to be happy. Disney movies never cease to show girls your age and their fairy tales. Social media shows you all of your friends smiling with a cute guy next to them. I get it.
Would it be nice for a boy to smile at you? Maybe. Won't it make it all the more sweet when the right one does though when you know you didn't settle?
Don't let him get to you, sweet girl. You are so much more than that boy when you were 16 made you believe.

Love,
Libby, just a little older.

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